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On the comedy stage, Nikki Glaser is fearless — as snug speaking about her life intercourse as roasting Alec Baldwin (a second that is been viewed 4.6 million occasions). Whether or not on stage, TV or a podcast, Glaser makes exposing your inside life — or mocking another person’s — appear easy, even enjoyable. However behind the scenes, the 37-year-old has lengthy struggled to stay open about her battles with psychological well being and anorexia.
That was, till a pandemic hit. Compelled to press pause on her comedy initiatives, Glaser was left staring her personal insecurities within the face, and have become decided to do one thing about it. So the comic made a transfer that was each surprising and, in 2020, utterly unoriginal: She moved again in along with her dad and mom.
“It was embarrassing actually to be there as a result of it was clearly by alternative. I could not say it was a monetary purpose,” says Glaser. “Like there isn’t any disgrace in shifting again dwelling together with your dad and mom for any purpose, however financially is extra accessible. While you simply need your mommy and daddy and also you’re petrified of the world, that is what my case was.”
Whereas there, she joined a assist group for her consuming dysfunction, did karaoke of their lounge and discovered that the one approach ahead is thru. Now working her own weekly podcast and set to host HBO Max’s upcoming actuality present Fboy Island, Glaser opens to Yahoo Life about ADD, restoration and why Taylor Swift is a “central half” of her psychological well being routine.
What was it like dwelling together with your dad and mom throughout quarantine?
I believe that people are social creatures. And I simply needed to admit to myself that I get depressed after I’m alone. And it is, like, not good for my psychological well being to isolate. I have to be accountable, I would like folks to see what behaviors I am indulging in. Issues simply can spiral uncontrolled if I am alone… I actually did get severely depressed final summer season and needed to have some severe psychological well being intervention that fortunately bought me in line completely for when the world opened up.
Was that your first main battle with melancholy?
I used to be all the time a depressed teen trying again, which I believe lots of people can relate to. I had ADD, which wasn’t checked out as a result of it is normally boys leaping off the partitions [and] speaking an excessive amount of and I used to be actually quiet. I used to be petrified of consideration and disorganized and preoccupied with ideas and had no coping mechanisms. So I believe I used to be depressed but it surely did not actually set in till I bought an consuming dysfunction, which stemmed from OCD [obsessive-compulsive disorder] and melancholy.
Did you discover it troublesome to open up about what you have been going by way of?
It is robust as a result of I come from a household the place psychological sickness shouldn’t be mentioned — not as a result of individuals are merciless, however as a result of it is simply an excessive amount of. There’s an excessive amount of historical past there and it is too arduous to take a look at. They usually simply cannot and I’ve accepted that my household did not get any assist for my anorexia not as a result of they weren’t so terrified and never as a result of they needed me to die, however as a result of they simply have been frozen in concern.
Have been different folks commenting in your struggles with consuming?
When you have got an consuming dysfunction, you’ll be able to learn to look regular after which nonetheless be a large number. You may not look anorexic however you might be — you’ll be able to reside like that. It is even worse as a result of nobody can see it. So I used to be within the depths of an consuming dysfunction when COVID hit and I had nothing else to take a look at. And it was identical to, OK, you must repair this. When you do not wish to reside together with your dad and mom the following time, you higher repair it as a result of nobody can get near you when you’re hiding habits which might be the perfect a part of your day. The perfect a part of my day was dinner as a result of I’d starve myself all day. I might say it was intermittent fasting and eat an enormous dinner and nobody would actually discover. It was hell and now I simply wish to hold my life as trustworthy as doable, as a result of if I may be trustworthy about one thing, it means it should not be that shameful.
Did you are feeling just like the strain from society for girls to be excellent and skinny made it worse?
All I needed in highschool was somebody who I appeared as much as and thought had all of it collectively to say that they struggled with one of many issues I struggled with. All I needed was Jennifer Anniston to point out insecurity. And it simply by no means bought by way of to me in any Seventeen journal or Teen Individuals. I used to be craving authenticity and realness… that is why I f***ing love Taylor Swift. If she was round after I was in highschool, I’d have turned out in a different way. No higher, not worse, simply completely different.
What’s it about Taylor Swift that you simply love a lot?
I can not really feel my emotions as a result of I grew up all the time feeling responsible about how I felt. And in addition pondering that crying was a manipulative device that did not work. Like, folks do not consider it. So Taylor Swift helped me really feel my emotions. There is a music for each emotion I might be feeling.
Wow, seems like she has made a big effect.
She helped me rather a lot by way of this pandemic, rather a lot. I’ve all the time been reluctant to be certainly one of these those that’s like hanging on Billie Eilish’s arm as she’s making an attempt to stroll away like, “You saved my life.” And I am like, oh my God, so dramatic. However music positively saved my life as a younger woman and even now, Taylor Swift is a central a part of my psychological well being routine.
What else has helped you overcome these struggles?
I am in a restoration program for my consuming dysfunction and you understand, if every other readers wish to know what bought me to lastly determine it out they may completely all the time DM me on Instagram. Actually, what it’s is rather like actually accepting the truth that I’m not a nasty particular person and that the issues that I do that aren’t nice and that I am mad at myself for are simply me making an attempt to do my greatest and failing — and that is OK.
This interview has been edited for size and readability.
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