My ex had most cancers years in the past and used loads of medical marijuana. One of many causes for our divorce was his carelessness with the marijuana round our youngsters — leaving edibles on the counters close to their snacks, and so on. We had some very scary close to misses. I realized final week that his most cancers has returned. I really feel horrible for him however I’m additionally extremely nervous his prior habits will return. He’s remarried with two younger youngsters. And he has our teenage daughters each different weekend.
I’m frightened our ladies are on the age the place easy accessibility will encourage experimenting. I’m additionally frightened for his or her youthful brothers. I don’t know tips on how to deal with this with out trying like a horrible particular person. What are my choices?
One possibility is to hunt a modification of your youngsters’s parenting time till your ex is effectively once more. Nevertheless, that won’t go over effectively along with your ex, your youngsters or the decide no matter your good intentions. There are higher choices to attempt first.
You should have a really sincere dialog along with your teenage daughters. It could be finest in case you and your ex can get on the identical web page and have the dialog collectively. Sit them down and clarify that he’s sick and that generally with this sort of sickness, medical marijuana is a assist. Clarify that simply because he makes use of it does NOT make it OK for them to attempt it even whether it is out within the open or they discover it. Inform them that any experimentation they might need to undertake may hurt their father as a result of he would then not have what he wants when he wants it. Placing it that manner will give them one thing severe to contemplate if they’re tempted. Additionally clarify the risks to their growing brains in the event that they use his remedy.
Have a dialog together with his spouse. Don’t level fingers at him however, somewhat warn her that he was so sick final time he wasn’t at all times able to cleansing up after himself and your youngsters have been discovering his edibles round. That manner it seems like you might be simply involved for her youngsters and she’s going to know to maintain a watch out.
Additionally clarify to your ladies that whereas marijuana could be unhealthy for them, it could be very unhealthy for his or her youthful brothers so it could be good if they are often additional useful with their brothers whereas their dad is sick.
With a bit of luck, you may all pull collectively and be the supportive staff your ex wants proper now. However, you probably have any inclination that the “proper” manner of doing that is failing, you may at all times ask the court docket to intervene — then you may not less than say this was your final resort.
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